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Absent, yet present? This is the author accepted manuscript. After this free email series:. Click here to sign up for my free email series or simply click on the image below. Click to Learn More. I'm Rachel, mother of 5 young kids living in the Florida panhandle with my Australian husband. I write about family culture, family rhythms and routines, and boundaries in motherhood and life.
You can see snippets of my daily life here and visit my shop for baby sleep, organizing, and routine help. Very minir, but I wanted to mention a couple typos that seem to throw the meaning of some sentences. I found the piece to be life changing and wish every human access to it!. Ironically and perfectly, I have a typo in my 2nd sentence. I wish there was an easy way to approach this subject with him. Is he seeing someone for his PTSD? I have seen the results of life-changing healing in as little as one appointment. Completely confidential. Lots of free resources on the website.
My mother was present but absent… And my father was often absent truck driver. I knew she did love and care for me, but actions often speak louder than words. Once I got to high school I really sought out good friends, and I really turned to God, and everything has worked out. I figured how to forgive my mother and move on. I have yet to go counseling for it. I try hard to be so much more available and open and honest with my children than my mother ever was with me she NEVER talked to me about maturation, let alone sex, but also just never really shared personal stories about herself growing up much at all.
My mom was raised by a mentally ill mother who abused her. As a result my mom has something akin to PTSD and was not able to be demonstrative with her love or pay me much attention. My father was still is at 65 a workaholic. As a result I exhibited some of the behaviors described in the article. The author really hit the nail on the head here.
Good info! Sophia, I am so sorry this was your experience growing up. I pray you find comfort now and encouragement that you are doing your best as a mom! My mother is was mentally ill, and my father was never home. I have 5 siblings.
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All but me have had counseling, and I know I need it. I have four children and am an introvert. So hard to deal with all the issues. I worry most about my inability to connect with my husband and children. May God bless our efforts as we try to break the cycle. Judith, I agree with this. Great post! It has helped the relationship I have with my kids and also the one I have with my husband. Lauren, you are so right. Balance is key! This definitely hit home for me. I have a 5 year old daughter with significant disabilities due to a genetic syndrome. Caring for her is complicated and exhausting.
I also have a 3 year old son. A view I have very much needed. So thank you for sharing your insight and experience. I know it must be so challenging to care for a child with special needs and a small one at home. No guilt at all. Just a clearer picture of what has likely been happening with me.
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It helps me think objectively and rationally about my situation. Divine grace at work. Thank you again. I love this article! I was initially hesitant to read it when this popped up on my Pinterest feed. I grew up with a mentally ill mother who was and is often present but absent.
Thank you. Elle, thank you so much! That was my goal, to show the dangers but to encourage, not use fear to drive our behavior.
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I really enjoyed this. I too am in a situation where my husband is disabled and spends most of his time in bed. When he does venture out of the bedroom, its usually with a headache, so he is constantly telling the children to be quiet. I can sense that they resent him for this. I have three girls 9, 6, and 5.
I really think it is because he is the absent parent. Martha, I am so sorry for your difficult situation. You may be right in your guesses. I suppose an honest discussion with both parties might help them see why they are feeling what they feel?
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Go to therapy with him. I grew up with absent parents and if my mom would of divorced my dad years ago I would of been so much better off not being exposed to his anger. Sweetheart, you are yhe present but absent parent and he is the absent parent. I am saying this out of great Love and knowledge. This is a great article and explains my parents exactly.
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Until I went to college, there I had a hard time and thankfully had an amazing therapist. Also the fear of standing out is profound. I had a terrible time in school- terrible people skills- and that was one of the biggest. I was willing to fail rather then go through it. Same as in college. Thank you for writing this. Sarah, I am so sorry for your experience growing up, girl, and I am so happy you found a therapist who could help you identify some of these things and find some healing.
I truly pray your self-image and self-confidence change with each year. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story. Good article on a worthy topic! This is a slippery slope to victim blaming. Hehe brings a funny mental image of somebody bewitched and not wanting to do something terrible but their hands are pulled that way by some unseen force lol anyway sorry to nitpick but sometimes unwanted connotations can creep in and sully our well intentioned writings! Alison, you are too right of course.
Everyone makes their own choices! A better way to say it might have been that the way we behave creates an impression that others use to determine what we will or will not do. Hello Rachel, Thank you for the awesome topic. Our live as a family had many similar moments; my husband was a Pastor for almost 30 years and with that came his responsibility to be on call almost 24hours 7 days a week! It is strange how the very flock he tends to has difficulty to understand his responsibilities as family man.
We have 3 sons and a daughter, all grown up now. The eldest son is married and they are expecting their 1st baby, the other 2 sons not married yet are in long-standing relationships. My daughter is divorced and has a little boy. The heartbreaking part is how I can see the damage done in my children with present but absent parenting and how much I wish I could turn back the clock knowing more now. I think the most difficult is to admit that we have failed in some way or another and try to find ways in which we can restore the broken pieces. It is not easy to discuss this with my daughter more so than with our sons, because where do you start without blaming each other in the process?
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She and the little one are living with us and we have come a long way in our relationship, but it is her relationship with her father that needs the most restoration. Many thanks. Chrisna, I am so sorry where this post has discouraged you : Hopefully, though, it shined a light that might become an inroad for discussion with your kids? Also, we can all only do the best we can do! I pray your family finds some peace, Chrisna. So, what if you were the present but absent parent, who lives with guilt!!!!
Because you were barely surviving yourself. How do I make up for it or help her now. I was absent emotionally after her father left , and we are pretty close now. But I hate what I did. To help her be healthier emotionally ya, and I caused it! I know for what I was, I am responsible.
My poor baby. Any ideas.
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I was very blessed to have had my parents co parenting who loved her more than I could express at the time. They were present and mine and her saving grace. Any suggestions how I can encourage her now.
I have told her over and over it is okay to be angry at me. I failed her. We were very close before her dad left. It was like losing 2 parents for her. May God forgive me.
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And heal her, because it has to still hurt. It went on for about 4 or 5 years until I was better able to deal with my emotions and get over myself!!!! So angry at me!!!!! Silvia, bless you dear sister. What a warm and loving heart you have for your daughter.